It is the woman who chooses the man who will choose her – Paul Lefèvre-Geraldy
French writer Paul Géraldy once remarked that “It is the woman who chooses the man who will choose her,” emphasizing the subtle yet decisive role women play in shaping relationships. Rather than occupying a passive position, they signal preferences and set boundaries that effectively determine who “chooses” them—despite prevailing cultural narratives that suggest otherwise.
The Understated Power of Choice
While traditional storytelling often depicts men as pursuers, Géraldy’s quote highlights how women’s decisions—however subtle—actively guide the course of romantic partnerships. Through gestures, signals, and even the environments they choose to inhabit, women define the terms upon which they interact. In doing so, they exercise a form of agency that can outweigh conventional assumptions of who initiates and who responds. Recognizing this nuanced form of leadership helps dismantle the myth of female passivity, revealing a more balanced dynamic in which both parties hold sway.
